Well-known Polish teacher, doctor, writer, public figure. He was not a psychologist by education, but if you plunge into the time when Janusz Korczak (1878 — 1942) lived, understand how he lived, what truths he professed and what works he left behind, an unconditional realization comes of how much this outstanding figure did to understand the psychology of children. Korczak owns over 20 books on education (the main ones are How to Love a Child, 1914, and The Child’s Right to Respect, 1929)
The simple truths that Janusz Korczak confessed himself were reflected in the Ten Commandments for Parents:
1. Don’t expect your child to be the way you want. Help him become not you, but himself.
2. Do not ask your child to pay for everything you have done for him. You gave him life, how can he thank you? He will give life to another, that to a third, and this is an irreversible law of gratitude.
3. Do not take out your grievances on the child, so that in old age you do not eat bitter bread. For what you sow, that will come up.
4. Don’t look down on his problems. Life has given everyone their strength and, be sure, it is no less difficult for him than for you, and maybe more, because he has no experience.
5. Do not humiliate!
6. Do not forget that the most important meetings of a person are his meetings with children. Pay more attention to them — we can never know who we meet in a child.
7. Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t do something for your child. Torture if you can, but you don’t. Remember, not enough is done for a child if everything is not done.
8. A child is not a tyrant who takes over your whole life, not only the fruit of flesh and blood. This is the precious cup that Life has given you for keeping and developing the creative fire in it. This is the liberated love of a mother and father, in whom not “our”, “our own” child will grow, but a soul given for safekeeping.
9. Know how to love someone else’s child. Never do to someone else what you would not like to be done to yours.
10. Love your child in any way — untalented, unlucky, adult. Communicating with him — rejoice, because the child is a holiday that is still with you.