When the Unified State Examination and the OGE are approaching, graduates feel a whole range of feelings — from fear to enthusiasm. But it turns out that this is just the beginning. Ahead of admission, no less exciting stage in life. During this period, the main task of parents is to support the applicant. Our advice will definitely help in this difficult matter.
Tip #1: No pressure
First of all, the heads of applicants are filled with thoughts about where to go. Here — far, there — expensive, here — there are not enough points or simply not interesting.
There is no need to put pressure on the child and force him to submit documents to the law office, like a dad. In the end, it is he who enters, and it is the graduate who will study at a university or college. And in the future — many years of work.
Some parents manage to greatly raise the bar, throwing phrases like: “If you don’t enter this university with a high rating, then you will be revenge yards all your life.” Needless to say, such statements cause fear, anxiety, lower self-esteem and do not motivate at all, especially when the exam is ahead and parents expect only the highest score?
Tip #2: Let go of control
There is no need to control the child 24/7: “Have you prepared for the exams? Did you find out the start date of the selection committee? Did you choose a specialty? Have you agreed on a hostel? Did you take photographs for documents? It happens that tired and undecided graduates take a “vacation” for a year, work until they finally decide on a university. When parents follow every step and try to get into their heads, there is not a single opportunity to think and make an informed decision.
Give the child more freedom, including from your notations and instructions. The task of parents in such a period is to create the most comfortable conditions for the successful passing of exams and for subsequent admission.
Tip #3: Offer help
It is not necessary to interfere in the affairs of the graduate, but to help is quite! Of course, before that, it is better to ask if he needs help at all. Perhaps the child will not interfere with an explanation on one of the exam topics. Or maybe your friend’s son took the exam last year and can share his experience. Or the child will ask you for some advice about choosing an institute or faculty.
This also includes assistance in organizing a comfortable space. Offer to do a little rearrangement (sometimes it helps to tune in a new way), organize a place on the balcony to study, or change the light in the room from cold to warm.
Tip #4: Cheer up with little things
There is hardly a graduate who does not worry at the time of exams. Someone is preparing for the exam around the clock, someone is studying the websites of universities and choosing, choosing, choosing … Raise the mood of the applicant! Pleasant little things will noticeably inspire him. Favorite ice cream, ginger tea, a bouquet of daisies, a fun gym session, a hot bubble bath or watching your favorite movie.
Tip #5: Turn to time management
During the period of exams and during the work of the selection committee, anxiety increases, which is why graduates often feel a breakdown. And children can forget to eat, sleep little, and neglect breaks in work.
In order to have time for everything planned (from passing exams, obtaining a USE certificate and ending with studying enrollment lists), unloading a child and taking care of his health, it is useful for parents and applicants to turn to time management.
Support the child by jointly organizing a clear schedule, which will include not only things of primary importance, but also time for unloading. Many applicants forget about rest during the difficult time of exams and admission, so the child should be reminded more often about walking, meeting friends, relaxing or changing activities.
Tip #6: Boost your confidence
During the period of passing exams, it is especially important for a child to feel strong and successful. The support of loved ones will help him cope with the excitement: “You can!”, “You will succeed!”, “You tried hard, so there will certainly be excellent results”, “I believe in you”, “You have enough knowledge and skills to do everything is great».
By the way, not only praise can give self-confidence. Of course, it is necessary to emphasize faith in the child, but it will also be important for him to know that he has the right to make a mistake and that no one will condemn him for this: “Even if something goes wrong, we will cope with everything together,” «You can, if anything, enter next year.»