The tradition of giving gifts to each other for the New Year, Christmas, birthday or graduation has firmly entered our lives. Meanwhile, this is not just a tribute to fashion or an obligation.
Giving and accepting presents is a whole ritual that shows mutual respect, appreciation, love. For this reason, it is best to teach the rules of giving and receiving gifts from an early age.
How to present gifts correctly
Parents who want to teach kids how to give gifts correctly, first of all, need to decide when to start bringing their child up to date. Child psychologists say that the optimal age is from 3 years old, but everything is individual, because the child himself may show interest in this topic earlier.
How to teach your child to give gifts:
one. Teach by Example. Make gifts for friends, family and loved ones and involve the baby in the process. For example, ask him to choose a card, tie a ribbon bow, solemnly present a present.
2. Learn how to choose the right gifts. For example, it is better to present not ready-made gift sets, but something that you have chosen yourself, especially for each specific person in accordance with his interests, age, lifestyle, dreams and desires.
3. Explainwhat present is a selfless act. You cannot expect a return gift or special praise from a person.
4. Good when presenting a gift accompanied by a smile, pleasant wishes and kind words. No one is pleased to receive a present from a person with a sour face.
5. The gift should be chosen from the heart, so its cost is not important. You can even make a gift with your own hands.
6. Pay attention to packaging. It is important that it be neat and appropriate. They say that the first impression of a gift is due to its design and decor! By the way, do not forget to remove the price tag or receipt.
7. Help your child expand their horizons about gifts. Tell that gifts are tangible and intangible: songs, poems, impressions. So in the future it will be easier for him to make a choice.
eight. It is considered good form to accompany a gift with a postcard.. It is not necessary to write lengthy speeches and parting words on it, just sign it. An excellent mood is guaranteed for the gifted!
9. Discuss with your child the topic of unwanted presents.. Such a conversation will avoid embarrassing situations. Say that you definitely can’t give pets to anyone without prior agreement. Firstly, a person may be allergic to wool, and secondly, not all people or children will be able to provide decent, responsible care to living beings. Tell them that presents can even be offensive. For example, it is unlikely that mom will like a set of pots for the Eighth of March, if she personally did not ask for it and in general has been dreaming of perfume for a long time.
ten. Checkthat when presenting a present, the recipient is not asked if he liked the gift, they do not ask for compliments and do not tell how hard it was to pick it up and how much money it took.
11. A teenager should know that there are circumstances when it would be right to donate money. For example, they can be presented at a wedding, birthday, or if a person asks for it.
Teaching a child to accept gifts
Of course, it’s nice to give gifts, but kids like to receive them just as much. In order to avoid embarrassment, resentment and misunderstanding, children should be educated on how to properly accept presents.
What rules to follow?
1. Explain to the child that it is necessary to receive a gift from the hands of the giver with gratitude. You can say “I am very pleased” or “thank you very much” and smile — this is the first rule of “gift” etiquette.
2. It is considered good manners to open a gift and see what is in it. It is not necessary to immediately play the presented helicopter on the remote control or assemble a puzzle, but you need to look at the gift and compliment it. One fact should be taken into account here: in some families this is not accepted. If your family has a tradition that gifts are opened in the absence of the donor, so that it would not be embarrassing, then it is worth explaining to the child.
3. Didn’t like the present or does the child already have exactly the same thing? Don’t talk about it! No need to upset a person who tried to make a pleasant surprise.
4. No need to embarrass people: begging for another gift, asking about the price of a present, comparing gifts, criticizing them, laughing at someone else’s taste, saying “I don’t need this!” or “I wanted something completely different!”
5. Tell your child that according to the rules of etiquette, “delicious” gifts (for example, a box of chocolates, a cake, pastries) should be placed on a common table, and if flowers are given, they should be immediately put in water.
All of the above skills will not only help the child out in adulthood, but will also bring a lot of positive to children’s and adult communication with loved ones during the holidays.