How to talk to your child «about it»: books that will help parents discuss sensitive topics with children


Sometimes a baby’s question can take you by surprise. Like only five years, and suddenly boom! “Mom, what is sex?” Or like this: “I saw you fidgeting in bed. Why naked? Straightforward toddlers can disarm. Therefore, it would be good to prepare the right words and understandable answers in advance.

But our open baby has matured. Here is another problem. Exciting questions are often hushed up. There is shyness, shame, awkwardness for the «new» parts of the body and sharp, previously unfamiliar desires. How to make sure that a teenager gets answers to his questions from trusted sources, and not from the Internet or from peers?

Books from our selection will help to answer children’s “whence and why” questions and help teenagers understand “about it” questions.

How to talk about it with kids

Let’s Talk THIS: Girls, Boys, Babies, Families, and the Body — Robie Harris, Michael Amberley

Not sure how to explain where babies come from and why the bodies of boys and girls are different? Not scary. With this book, it is easy and simple to tell a child where children come from, how boys and girls differ, what it means to give birth and what it is to adopt. Look through the book of the teacher and mother Robie Harris with your child, look at the pictures, and an unexpected question from the “where did you get me from” series will no longer take you by surprise!

Let’s talk about where babies come from. Of Conception, Birth, Babies, and Families (Roby Harris)

Another lifesaver book from teacher Robbie Harris. She came up with this one when her own children were small and asked a lot of questions at the most unexpected moment. In the book “Let’s talk about where children come from”, parents will find useful blanks — answers to questions that every kid will ask tomorrow, not today: why does mom have such a big belly, how does the future sister plan to get out of there and what does it have to do with it dad. With Harris’s book, the right words will always be at the ready!

What happens during puberty?

“Boys and girls gain weight and get taller. Boys and girls grow hair under their armpits, on their arms and legs. Boys and girls sweat more. Some develop pimples on the face, chest and back. Boys’ voices are lower. In girls, the hips expand and the breasts begin to grow. Girls grow hair around the vulva (the area of ​​tender skin between the legs). Boys grow hair above the upper lip, on the chest and at the base of the penis. In girls, the ovaries begin to release eggs. In boys, the testicles start producing sperm.»

How to talk about it with teenagers

About IT: from the first changes in the body to the first desires (Zep Brüller, Helen Brüller)

It is clear to tell the growing child what awaits him in adolescence. Explain how to kiss and — oh my! — what is a condom. The book «About IT» will help to approach these tasks. Give it to your son or daughter and trust in the 20 years of experience of sex educators Zep and Helen Brüller. Through funny comics and heroes understandable to neo-teens, they will help to understand all the questions that grown-up children are embarrassed to ask their parents.

What is physical attraction?

“This is the sensation that arises when we see a person we like: we want to touch him and feel his touch, exchange caresses with him. When we are attracted to someone, his caresses make us tremble and give a very pleasant sensation to the skin and the whole body. Then we have a desire to be closer and closer to him — we feel that we are drawn to this person. It is sometimes very difficult to understand why a person attracts or repels us — there is something mystical about it!

Only for girls! Growing up: body changes, mood swings, new desires and how to survive it all (Nina Brockmann, Ellen Steken Dahl)

The authors of the bestselling book «Viva la Vagina» gynecologists Nina Brockmann and Ellen Steken Dahl are back with a new benefit! This time they rush to the aid of teenage girls and their parents. Everything that the former are embarrassed to ask and the latter to tell is carefully collected in one book. From the body structure to the first menstruation, from new desires to the first sex: this book is a proven adviser that always gives the right answer to an exciting question.

What is arousal?

“Excitation is a natural reaction that manifests itself in childhood. It feels like a tickle between the legs. Others describe the sensation as a tingling, throbbing, warm feeling that permeates the entire body. The heart begins to beat faster, and it is difficult to concentrate on what is happening outside the body. It’s a nice and special feeling. It can come from a kiss, a tickle on your back, or the thought of the person you’re in love with.»

How girls are made. About changes in figure, appearance, mood swings, as well as hygiene and nutrition (Sonia Renee Taylor, Kate Brennan)

The body smells new, pimples appeared on the face, and the first bush begins to grow under the armpits. Calm, just calm. Everything is in order, and you are beautiful! This is the main message of Sonia Renee Taylor and Kate Brennan, authors of The Way Girls Work. They will calm the grown-up girl, teach them how to take care of themselves, monitor hygiene and tell you everything you need to know about puberty and other adolescent problems.

How breasts grow.

“Our train arrived at one of the busiest stations, Chest. He usually travels to her for several years, making many short stops along the way. Whenever you are at this station, breast development is a big change that happens to the body during puberty, and you need to be ready for it. We’ll talk about everything you need to know to feel confident and strong as you learn to take care of your growing and changing body. By the way, amazing fact! 50% of women have one breast larger than the other. The left breast is usually smaller, and doctors don’t know exactly why.»

How boys are made. On Changes in Height, Weight, Voice, and Hygiene and Nutrition (Scott Todnam)

Talking with parents about a changed body is even more difficult for boys than for girls. To unobtrusively help to understand everything, give your son the book «How Boys Work». It was written by 20-year-old health educator Scott Todnam. He speaks directly, in a language the boys can understand, and will help parents with home education. Why does the voice break, what to do with the fluff on the face, how to properly monitor hygiene and how to deal with acne? Todnem speaks about everything with humor, without abstruseness and moralizing. An ideal educational program for boys.

How to control the voice when it breaks?

“There are several ways to get your voice in order if you need to make an important speech. Warm up first! The first words spoken after silence can be surprisingly high. Clear your throat and hum a little before you speak. Start at the lowest pitch of your voice and work your way up to the middle one, much like singers do before a performance. It can be done in a few seconds and no one will notice.”

Let’s talk about relationships. Growing up, new desires and changes in the body (Roby Harris, Michael Amberley)

What will be discussed? Here are a couple of examples: what to do at the first menstruation, what is an abortion, when you can start having sex and how to avoid diseases that are transmitted through it. This time, educator Robie Harris is no longer addressing the kids and their parents, but speaking directly to teenagers. Both girls and boys will learn from the book about new sensations in the body, about relationships, about love, sex, intimate health.

What is an STD?

“Sexually transmitted diseases, STDs are diseases that are transmitted from person to person through sexual contact. Some STDs are extremely dangerous, others not so much. They can prevent the conception of a child and even lead to the death of a person, but most are treatable. In addition, there are drugs and procedures that improve the condition of a person with incurable STDs. Condoms are the only contraceptive method that protects against contracting STDs and passing them on to your partner.”


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