In the modern world, tattoos, it would seem, no longer surprise anyone. However, almost every parent, even a not very conservative one, has a lot of emotions and feelings when a child comes up and says: “Mom, dad, I want to get a tattoo!” How to respond to such a statement? Let’s figure it out.
Why do children need tattoos
Any desire of a child has its own grounds and preconditions. Tattoos are no exception. Here are a few options:
- the desire to hide some injuries, scars, stretch marks on the body, to become more attractive;
- compensation for the qualities that a child lacks (conditionally, some lion can become a symbol of strength, and a sailboat — a sign of openness, freedom);
- the desire to express their feelings, experiences, emotions;
- strengthening personal identity, since various signs, symbols and drawings allow other people to form a definite opinion about a person, his experience, skills, aspirations, interests;
- the desire to increase authority in their environment;
- the need or desire to be like someone (for example, the person the child admires).
Whatever your child thinks, a tattoo is a topic of confidential conversation with a son or daughter. You should not immediately say “yes” or “no” to the drawings on the body, initially you need to enter into a dialogue in order to say why the child needs it in general and when he had a desire to decorate his body in this way.
Important questions to ask
We have selected some important topics that are worth discussing with a child regarding tattooing before making any decision.
one. A quality tattoo is not cheap.. This is true. A good tattoo that doesn’t «float» after a couple of months is well worth it. And it should also be done by an experienced craftsman with a rich portfolio, extensive experience, excellent reviews and, preferably, an appropriate education. Many people fly from one country to another and from city to city for the sake of such masters. Is the child ready for such expenses? And this is not to mention the correction of tattoos and special ointments. Of course, you can get a tattoo from some self-taught friend for a chocolate bar, but do you really want to sacrifice the beauty of the drawing and your own health? Invite your child to start earning or saving up the necessary amount in order to sign up for the best master.
2. A quality tattoo requires awareness. The first ideas for tattoos, as a rule, are not thoughtful. You look at such a drawing a year later and you wonder how it came to your mind. Of course, a tattoo can be reduced, but this procedure is very long and expensive, with an incomprehensible result. Therefore, before you go to the tattoo artist, the drawing should be thought out to the smallest detail. Maybe today a child wants a tattooed flower, and tomorrow he wants an image of a full-leg panda or a cartoon character. And there is also the possibility that the tattoo just becomes familiar over time and gets bored. Want to experiment? For such experiments, there is henna or decals. Invite your child to order a decal and wear it for several months. If the desire to make a tattoo does not fade away, it will be possible to discuss where to look for a master.
It’s a good idea to take your child to a trusted tattoo artist for a detailed consultation. The professional will be able to talk to the child about the pros and cons of getting a tattoo at such a young age. Your child is likely to listen to the arguments of the master. Maybe the child wants to find another drawing, maybe he wants to return to this question when he turns 18.
By the way, the master can dissuade the child from the tattoo for another reason — legal. Not a single law of the Russian Federation mentions the profession of a «tattoo master», so it is difficult to regulate this activity. However, no one will tattoo children under the age of 14 for ethical and physiological reasons (the child is still growing, so the drawing can easily be distorted).
From the age of 14 to 18 years of age (that is, until the actual age of majority) to commit such an act, a teenager requires the consent of parents or guardians. Most salons value their reputation: they will always require a passport and written consent of the parents before the procedure, and in the absence of these, they will refuse the service.
Forbid or allow?
There is no single answer to the question of whether or not to allow a child to get a tattoo. All parents are different: for some, this “decoration” is acceptable, for others it is impossible in principle. One thing is for sure: before adolescence, you should not allow a child to get a tattoo, even for reasons of common sense, because his body grows and changes.
A categorical refusal without the opportunity to discuss your position and explain yourself is not a good idea. Ask your child questions about what he thinks and why he made such a decision. Explain your worries and concerns to him. Here are some examples of questions to discuss with your son or daughter:
- «What tattoo do you want to get? Where?”;
- “Why do you want to get a tattoo? How did you come up with such an idea?
- “Will something change in your life if you get this tattoo?”;
- “What inspired you to choose this particular pattern?”;
- “If suddenly you don’t like the tattoo or get bored, what will you do?”
- «Do you have any doubts?»
Delicate reasoning, logical arguments and just a respectful calm tone will help you and your child make an informed decision. Most importantly, stay calm!